Adopting a child is an enormous commitment and the process can test your endurance levels to the limit. Regardless, once you’ve finally been granted adoption rights the feeling of joy will be immense. Bringing your child home at the end of the process will be exciting, daunting and probably a little terrifying so discover the best ways to break the ice with the help of Adopt Wales.
Preparation is Key
During the adoption interim period use this time to prepare for the child’s arrival as when they move in you’ll be busy enough adjusting to the changes. Prepare for the child’s arrival by following these steps:
- Read a few celebrated adoption books which will give you an idea on what to expect and how to handle introductions when the child is with you. Also research blogs and forums for a variety of resources.
The Connected Child by Karyn B. Purvis is a critically acclaimed guide to attachment and bonding with your adopted child and a good starting point for your research.
- Find out as much information as possible about the child’s background, experiences and family history as this will help you to understand their needs best.
- Consider what the best approach is in terms of parenting and plan how you are going to deal with complications or issues should they arise. Come up with a backup plan too if your first technique doesn’t work.
- Understand that no matter how much preparation you do, there will be unforeseen bumps and cracks along the way and that’s okay. Adoption is a learning curve.
Introducing your Partner
There are many reasons why some parents may choose to wait until the child has moved in to introduce them to a partner. Perhaps you haven’t been with your partner for that long, or maybe you’re just nervous about bringing more people into the equation when the child has probably had enough emotional change in their life as it is.
Either way, when it comes to introducing your partner and child, tread carefully. Avoid awkward surprise introductions and set a specific date and time for the meeting. Educate your partner about the child’s likes, dislikes, background and vice versa.
Although you don’t want your child to get into the habit of expecting gifts, an initial gift can help to break the ice and provides a talking point for both partner and child. If your partner doesn’t live with you, introduce them in a familiar place like your home so the child feels at ease- avoid public places in case disaster strikes.
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